Beyond Penis Priviledge

Good morning everybody,

With the weather being so chilly and me freezing my butt off at work, it really makes one reflect as to how much I take coffee for granted,lol. However I digress,  a while back I came across an article that spoke about “penis priviledge”, in a nutshell, men will always be assholes and nothing will change that.

This is where I feel I need to put my foot down and stop this train right there, wait, I am completely derailing this train off its tracks because it does not require any steam. Just follow my train of thought for a moment *see what I did there…*

We are currently in the era of powerful women, superheroines, movements like ‘Time’s Up’, women speaking out about violence and protesting wage differences, it is an amazing time to be alive. In the same breath, there also seems to be a tendency to paint all men with the same brush as if though they are just sitting on a bomb and waiting to explode to be the next Harvey Weinstein, to this I call nonsense.

Being a mom of boys and married to a male counterpart, I feel that we also need to see the positive influence of men. If we are going to raise them thinking that they are nothing but hormones on a set of legs waiting to assault the nearest female then we give them zero chance of being decent human beings.

Let’s paint a new picture, I have met and know some incredible dads, Superman obviously included, those who are more than just the fun police, more than just the disciplinarians, single dads who go the extra mile to see their kids, widowed dad’s who are able to smile through the loss and be amazing dads for  their kids, young men who are the epitome of gentlemen, they outnumber the amount of ‘Weinstein’s’ I know by far.

But where does this all start? When they are little boys of course. By teaching little boys how to deal with their emotions, how to take care of themselves, teach them little life skills, teach them to respect themselves and others, we are raising independent young boys who are more than society deems them to be. I will even be bold enough to take it a step further, by encouraging our boys, and young girls, to have a relationship with their fathers, actual bonds, and allow our husbands to be dads, holds that much more promise than we can imagine.

Perfect example would be that I am a perfectionist of note, I like things done a certain way and it grates my nerves to see things done differently, I’m not perfect, but it is what it is. However, by actually stepping back and letting Superman be a dad and do things a bit differently, I have seen our boys thrive, he actually has a lot more patience with the boys and he understands them when I sometimes don’t. You see, I need to allow them to create their own bond now because what if I am not there anymore? They need to know that their dad is there to protect them regardless of me not being around anymore, as scary at that seems, I need to be open-minded about it. Life happens and we need to be prepared.

So where am I going with this? Penis privilege does exist, but it does not DEFINE who little boys are going to grow up to be. Men can be amazing, caring, loving, protective and little boys even more so, which is why we need to treat them as such.

I am so very blessed to be raised by such a man, married to such a man, stepdaughter to such a man and mother to such little men.

Always with Love & Peace



2 Comments Add yours

  1. Celeste says:

    This is the first I’ve heard the term ‘penis privilege’. Thank you for the enlightenment.

    I agree with you. It’s not a definitive characteristic. Men can and will be amazing if given the chance to. At the risk of being bashed my women all over, I think that we have too little faith in men and have this my way or the highway attitude that makes men weary and not bother.

    1. DragonMommy says:

      Thank you so much Celeste, I agree 100%, they can only truly be more if we believe they can be more.

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