I’m sure you all are wondering what cave I crawled out of as I haven’t posted in a while, but I felt ready to start blogging again, and if ever there were a better topic then this would be it.
If you follow me on Instagram, then you would know that about a week ago my granny(mama) passed away. It was a real unexpected moment for all of us, as about a week prior she had fallen, she was shaken but okay, I still remember joking that she should not be shy to ask for help, otherwise I would buy her a little butler bell to call me, my granny laughed so hard at this.
To say that it was an introspective moment is an understatement, my granny was the glue that really kept our family together, at the age 85, she had 8 children, 28 grandchildren, 29 great-grandchildren, and 16 married in grandchildren. She had lost my aunt, her daughter a few years ago, lost my grandfather a few years prior, and suffered from chronic arthritis, even so, she was always smiling, always genuinely happy to see us and always willing to listen.
When my mama fell ill, many of us felt quite lost, but in the same time, many of us found each other. Cause lets face it, life today is busy, you need to get your kids prepped for school, then get yourself ready for work, work needs to get done, then you come home and the home needs seeing to, then its social functions, family time, I can go on and on, but it was during this time, that 7 days, that life just stood still. Family I had not seen in forever were popping by, cousins who kept making plans to see each other finally saw each other, and new family members got to meet for the first time.
See, even in the final few days, my granny was able to teach us that we will always have something to do, we will always need to work, kids will need to go to school, but the reality is that the bonds we have with the people around us, those bonds are the bonds that need our time. I remember her telling me that I needed to spend time with my family, to stop always rushing about, because my mama knew, she knew that sometimes I got blindsided by routine that I wouldn’t stop to appreciate the moments with my family.
In dedication to one of the most amazing woman who has ever graced this earth, I wanted to share some of the words she always left us with:
- Take care of yourself, your health is fine when you young, but it will leave you as you get older if you don’t take care of it.
- Protect your honor, it doesn’t matter what people think of you but don’t give them reason to doubt you.
- Look after each other, employers will replace you at the drop of a hat, but your family will always watch out for you.
- Be thankful for everything, today you have everything, tomorrow you may have nothing, so appreciate even the smallest grain of rice.
- Share, I remember that no matter who knocked on my mamas door, she always tried to assist them with something to eat, even if it were a bit of her own.
- Lastly, pray, never forget to pray and realize that you will never have control of everything, but if you have faith that everything happens for a reason, then you will always be happy.
I honestly am at peace with her passing, but I do miss her dearly, especially because she built such a special bond with my boys that I will never ever forget.
We love you mama <3
Always with Love & Peace