It’s the weekend, yeay!!! The rain is pouring and I am literally counting down the hours to doing absolutely nothing, hehehe….
That being said, I thought I would share a bit of a truth with you all, when Cupcake was born I expected to automatically transition into a Mom, but that never happened. To the extent that I was actually concerned that the hospital forgot to send me home with the maternal instinct that I thought was supposed to naturally come with parenthood.
Alas, it did not happen, there was no magical transitioning; just good old learning in practice.
I always imagined that I would be like my mom but I still felt very much like me, I still liked the same things, still dressed the same, and I sometimes tell Superman how strange it was that we were actually parents. One day Cupcake received a note from school that said, “Dear Parent” and I swear I did a bit of a head turn to see who exactly this ‘parent’ was that the note was referring to.
Ultimately I think that is why parenting is so unique, because not only is every parent very different, but so is every child; and truthfully speaking, there are times when I feel like I am hitting the parenthood ball out the park, whilst other times I feel like I am just completely winging it. Truthfully I think that is why no matter how many parenting textbooks you read, or how you try to prepare for it, you just can’t until you are smack bang in it.
Like once you get into the mode of having the hang of dealing with a newborn baby, then the toddler years roll in which is a challenge in itself. You go from wondering when your baby will walk to having to run after a toddler with an abundance of energy. It is just so ever changing and that’s what really makes it such a journey.
So yes, I didn’t transform into what I thought I would feel like when I became a mom, but my ideals are still the same. If I could ever set a parenting goal it would be to build an open relationship with Cupcake, where he will never feel the need to hide anything from me; because I want him to ask questions and not just go through life doing things because “my mommy said so”.
As I think that that concept would help him as he gets older so that he grows up to be more enlightened and not have this enclosed view of life. So as far as parenting goes, yes there are times when I want to crawl into my cupboard and hide whilst eating a box of tinkies because I feel like I’m not doing a good job, but then there are moments when I feel like patting myself on the back because I think I’m doing pretty darn good.
And Superman by my side has definitely helped in the best ways possible, because with such a strong team, Cupcake can be assured that he will have a loving, albeit crazy childhood.
Have an amazing weekend all!
Always with Love & Peace